The Top 10 Things Single Parents DON'T Want to Hear

By Christine Larade

The following is a list of things that you may hear from people when you are a single parent. People who can relate to this list may also include those getting over a long illness, job loss or anyone having a rough time with life. You may catch yourself saying them to a friend, not long after you bitterly endure them. But no matter what the case may be, the "little" sayings that people say to try to make others feel better must change. It doesn't mean these people (sometimes) don't care about you and want you to do better, it's just means that YOU have to change the way of thinking things through.

They say: "Things will get better soon."
I say: Start making things better now!

They say: "Life can't get any worse for you,so hang in!"
I say: Do not hang in, make yourself a knot and start climbing.

They say: "Take it one day at a time."
I say: Take life one minute at a time if that is what you need. (Codependent No More)

They say: "Pamper yourself."
I say: Love yourself. A bath may help temporarily, but you have to be able to live with yourself every day, not just when you are submerged in hot liquids.

They say: "There's nothing you can do about it right now, so try not to think about it."
I say: Even if you cannot do anything at the moment, psyche yourself for the future, it's coming fast.

They say: "The only way to go from here is up."
I say: No! It's not always like that. Realize you may have to go lower again, but you will eventually start climbing.

They say: "You can always come to me for help, but I've been so busy lately."
I say: Find the real friends, you'll know who they are.

They say: "How do you do it alone?"
I say: You do what must be done! It doesn't mean you are super or perfect. You survive!

They say: "Don't panic! "
I say: Go ahead, panic. Cry and yell (not in front of the children or ex-partners) but do it. And then, pick up the pieces, you'll feel better. Allow for momentary weakness once a week.

They say: "You'll find someone better."
I say: Learn to survive on your own and be strong independently before searching for the man of your dreams. Place some faith in fate.